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Well yes, it’s been a while since I last posted anything. I go through these waves were I feel like posting a bunch but then I simply get a few days in and forget to post. I guess I won’t make it as a journalist or freelance writer. Funny thing is that I really enjoy writing more now that I am older.

Well, since the last time I posted, my ex and I have had a number of arguements. The kids still reside with me. We do have joint or shared custody but they still spent 75-80% of their time with me, their dad. She still lives at her father’s place. She has admitted that she IS seeing this “friend” of hers now and has been for about a year. Of course I am not that stupid, she was seeing him long before that.

The kids have adjusted to the new life pretty well. My youngest, 10 yrs old, misses his mother like crazy and it seems more and more lately. My oldest, 14 yrs old, not so much. The oldest would prefer to stay home on the night during the week that she is taking them. On her weekends, he isn’t too bad. But he does indicate that he would like to come home when I am talking to him.

As for me? Well, i have been on a number of dates. They have been interesting to say the least. I have met a couple of nurses and been out on dates with them. On in particular I met up with her at a wine bar and I proceeded to get half snapped on wine. Not sure she was overly impressed but hey, I was nervous and I didn’t eat supper before meeting up with her that night. Needless to say, we didn’t end up going any further after that. They are an interesting group of ladies. I find a ton of nurses on the single sites I have been on. Not sure but does it have something to do with the hours or why exactly are so many nurses single? Teachers are another group I find are single alot.

I actually have had better luck with women that I have been introduced to by a friend or relative. It seems like I feel much more comfortable around them rather than a person off the single sites.

I am hanging out with someone now that peaks my interest. I have been connecting with her several time over the past 3 weeks. We are getting to know each other.

Still in now rush to settle down with a woman yet. It’s been 16 months since my ex and I separated. Unfortunately, I still love her. I probably always will. But I do realize a relationship with her will not truly make me happy anymore. There is a trust factor that is lost and I will not be able to restore easily again. I will never say never. You just never truly know what the future holds but I do believe we will not get back together.

My relationship with my two boys continue to grow even stronger and more interesting. We find our selves doing much more together now. We did alot previously but now it just seems different and we do more. I would never change that in the world. Funny how I was so scared/nervous about being the person to raise them but I am glad I stuck it out. Very rewarding!

Ok, so as you already know, I am cruising the singles sites window shopping.

These women really are interesting and their pictures are sometimes out of this world! And not in a good way!

Some women should simply put a face shot up or one where they are dressed normal and just standing there.

Putting up pictures up where you are dressed in a bikini does look inticing…sometimes but it makes wonder how desperate you really are. The better ones are with women barely dressed and they list having kids. Are you not worried about them somehow finding these pics later on line?

It really bothers me when women put pics of there young children on their profiles. Are you not worried about perverts?

Also, don’t put photos that were you 20 years ago. The shock factor when we meet is too much to bare!

Finally, just put up pics that show you as you are today. Put up multiple pics but make sure they resemble you today and as you are 90% of the time.

Ok…this weekend hasn’t been one of my best weekends since we separated.

See my ex calls every morning to say good morning to the kids and follows up in the evening before they go to sleep.

I really don’t mind because I do the same to try to kept the kids knowing we both love them.

But when I know she is with her “friend”, it bothers me. How do turn it off after 24 years with someone?

So the weekend has been raining and the kids didn’t want to move. One wanted to play with his buddies outside or at their houses while the other watched Netflix and played video games.

I? Felt like doing nothing as well I guess.

She calls a few times today and each time I didn’t want to answer the phone.

Then she shows up after work to pick up the kids and I hurry the kids out the door as I don’t want to make small talk anymore than I have to.

You see, I am whole heartily in love with my wife even though she left me. And with the kids by the way.

For almost 5 months I have tried to be nice and everything…with a couple blow ups here and there. Thinking this may show her what she is missing in a loving husband…not working…getting walked on.

So now I believe I should just move on and spend less time with her and less time speaking to her if it’s not about the kids.

It isn’t easy I can tell you that! But they say it will get easier.

One last thing…I put a profile picture up on Match.com! Well, let’s just say the women are “winking” and chat requesting today! The only problem is that these are not the women I am looking for….awkward!

Well after several months of being single and not wanting to think about another women involved with in my life, I’ve decided to take the plunge and begin fishing in the ponds called single sites on the internet.

These are very interesting to say the least. They could really be used as social experiments for universities.

Then you can but don’t have to, add the dreaded profile picture or selfie. This so other desperate singles can “window” shop for the perfect partner in life.

I chose all my criteria’s for a partner but I don’t believe the system really cares. Why you ask? Because my daily matches are only about 20% correct to what I told them I like.

I say no more than a 25 mile radius from my location. They send me up to 280 miles away. I say a body type of Slender, Athletic & Toned, or About Average. They send me Full Figured. Now nothing wrong with full figured but this is not what I asked for. And I don’t want to date someone in another province.

Now I haven’t put a profile selfie up but let me tell you that doesn’t stop anyone. They are requesting to chat with me like crazy. And not one of them fit my criteria’s I originally selected.

Again, awkward and frustrating.